Bad news

Last night I checked my email and received one titled "bad news" from my childhood bestfriend Tom. I knew right away that I didn't want to read it, but of course did anyways. He was recently diagnosed with non-hodgkins lymphoma or something like that, I dont remember exactly how its spelled. Just as I had feared, he wrote to me that he has a terminal illness (not sure if its the lymphoma or something else). I was devastated. To make matters even harder he wrote to me that it had brought him and his wife to a new level of closeness and she has asked him to never speak to me again and completely shut me out of his life and not to email him back because it would just make things harder for him. I felt so sad and yet insulted and betrayed all at the same time.
Tom and I were best friends for several years and we fooled around a couple times when we were kids but that was it, nothing at all after that, and then he married this woman about 7 years ago and she was so jealous of our friendship she never let me see him again except for one time that she didn't know about when we had lunch at a Wendys several years ago and other than that we only talk on the phone a couple of times a year and friends on facebook (which I have been deleted from apparently).
I know we havent been close the last couple years but I do still consider him to be one of the favorite people of my life, and for a long time considered him to be "the one that got away" but unfortunately I realized it too late.
I am just upset that he is going to leave this world and I won't be there to say goodbye or to console him or anything like that. I miss my friend. I don't know why women have to be so damn jealous and stupid like her. She has nothing to worry about, I have never tried to steal her husband away or anything like that and yet she has always hated me and I have never done anything but respect her and pretty much gave up on having a friendship with him because that is what she wanted and even now when he is sick, she cant let her jealousy go. I think thats really awful. She should know that after 7 years her husband isn't going to leave her. I guess she must have some major insecurities. Part of me is mad at him too for allowing her to control him like this for so many years but maybe thats just his way of proving his love to her or something. I just wish I could hug him one more time and say goodbye for good. I hate feeling like we have left things unfinished. I'm really gonna miss my friend.